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Virtual Interviews : How to Build Rapport without the Handshake

By Tony McBride | 18 May 2026 | 3 min read

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Virtual interviews are a different beast.

You lose the handshake, the physical presence, and those small social cues that happen naturally when you are in the same room.

It is much tougher to build a genuine connection because the technology can act as a barrier to the warmth you would usually show in person.

I have sat through countless mock interviews where the candidate is technically brilliant but fails to bridge that digital gap.

Here is how you can build a real connection through a webcam and secure that next role.

Focus on the Lens

I often see people looking everywhere but the camera.

They look at themselves on the screen, the interviewer’s face, or even the ceiling when they are thinking.

To the person on the other side, it looks like you are distracted or disinterested.

It feels like you aren't looking them in the eye.

Look directly at the camera lens to simulate true eye contact.

If you wear glasses, check for glare before you start.

Adjust your lighting or your seat so they can actually see your eyes.

Drink Water

Having a glass of water nearby does more than just keep you hydrated.

It makes the interaction feel like a natural conversation rather than a rigid interrogation.

Taking a sip gives you a vital second to compose your thoughts without an awkward silence.

It buys you thinking time to craft the best possible answer.

It also looks human.

It breaks the "question and answer" rhythm and allows the interviewer to see you as a person, not just a list of skills.

Ground Your Nervous Energy

Being animated is great, but wild hand gestures can be incredibly distracting on a small screen.

It can take the focus away from the points you are trying to make.

If you find yourself "talking with your hands" too much, try sitting on them or holding a pen.

This lets you channel that nervous energy into your legs or a physical object.

By keeping your hands steady, you ensure the interviewer is making eye contact and listening to your value, rather than being distracted by movement.

Remember to Smile and Be Conversational

In a boardroom, a smile comes easily.

Behind a screen, we often develop "interview face" which can appear cold or overly formal.

I often suggest putting a sticky note on your laptop that says "SMILE" to remind you to break the tension.

It is a simple but effective prompt.

Rapport is built when you treat the interview as a conversation between two professionals.

Answer the question, build that rapport, and show them you are someone they actually want to work with.

Virtual interviews do not have to feel clinical. With these small adjustments, you can prove that the person behind the screen is exactly the leader they need for their team.

Good luck with your virtual interviews, and if you’d like to learn how I can help you further, Book a free, no-obligation 30-minute consultationwith me and tell me your story.

Let’s see if I can help you shift the dial and secure your new career.

Tony McBride, certified career and interview coach, professional headshot

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CV, Interview and Career Transition Coach helping mid to senior professionals in the UK and Ireland land Director and C-suite roles.

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